I can hardly believe the boys are 35 weeks old today! 35 weeks ago I was in the hospital on bed rest. 35 weeks ago I could not get out of bed without Matt’s help as my belly was just a little on the big side. 35 weeks ago I woke up to my doctor sitting on my hospital bed and a room filled with nurses. 35 weeks ago I heard the words, “Today is the day, we need to deliver these babies today.” 35 weeks ago I became a Mama. 35 weeks ago…
In 35 weeks I have grown and loved and stretched in ways I didn’t know possible. I have learned so much along the way. I am no expert in motherhood, as I don’t think such a thing could even exist. But today I thought I would share 10 things I have learned in motherhood so far.
1. It is better to smile than cry.
Motherhood is hard. And trying. And exhausting. There are times were you feel defeated and overwhelmed. But I always found looking taking a deep breath and smiling was better then letting those feelings of defeat overwhelm me.
2. You make more decisions in one day than ever before.
Oh the decisions. Many small, some big. My days are FILLED with decisions. Should I make my own baby food or just pick some up at Target? Should we read a book or should I pull out the boys sensory balls? Is he ready for a nap or is he just bored? Is this runny nose more than a runny nose? Should I call the doctor or just text a mommy friend? And on and on and on.
3. The best things in life are free.
Sure I would love a new pair of boots or perhaps a new purse. But nothing in life makes me happier or feel more fulfilled than my babies. The satisfaction of watching the boys grow and develop under my watchful loving eye is irreplaceable. There is nothing better than seeing the love the boys have for one another; watching them smile and giggle with one another.
4. Shots, tumbles, first colds…. they are all harder on YOU.
When one of my little boys fell over while sitting and bumped his head on a toy, I think I cried more than he did. He had long moved on and was happily playing again, while I sat there with my heart breaking for my precious little boy.
5. There is no right way to do motherhood.
It is easy to catch yourself wondering, “Am I doing this right?” But the truth to this question is there is no right way to do this. Remember all those decisions you have to make?? Well there are hundreds of paths you can take when raising your babies. And I honestly believe that each other paths will take you to that same place. How you get to the end goal doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you get there. Wherever there may be. And trust me, you will get there!
6. Everything can be turned into a song.
Literally everything. Trying a new vegetable for the first time? Sing a song about it! Bath time? There’s a song. I have lost count of how many songs about poop I have sang. Motherhood truth right here. You will find yourself singing about poop. Just embrace it. Sometimes I think I sing to the boys more than I actually speak to them. They are going to think they live in a musical, but hey that wouldn’t be so bad in my book!
7. Everyone is happier if you get out of the house.
You and your baby will appreciate an outing. It doesn’t have to be a big outing; it could be a simple walk around the block. But get out of the house. It does wonders for your spirit. And perhaps even more for the babies.
8. Embrace the mess.
And truly be okay with it. This was perhaps the hardest of the 10 things I have learned in motherhood for me to truly grasp. For me it was hard to leave dirty dishes in the sink and baby toys all over the floor. But I realized the importance of embracing the mess. I wrote a whole post all about slowing down and focusing on simplicity in the year, as I resolve to be a careless mother.
9. Make time for you as a couple.
While Matt and I have only left the boys with family here and there, we still make it a priority to have time just the two of us. We are fortunate that the boys are good sleepers, so we often have our evenings alone. We make it a priority to talk about things besides our precious babes. After I show him the 85 pictures I took of them for the day of course.
10. My post baby body is just fine by me!
I made it 34 weeks without getting a single stretch mark. And then in that last week, boom, I found one, and then two, and then maybe another one. I was devastated. I may or may not have cried and texted one of my mommy friends. Now looking at my fading stretch marks, I smile. Sure my stomach is a little more squishy than before. Sure there are some marks that I didn’t have before. But I carried our two babies for 35 weeks. I love looking back and seeing pictures of my giant belly! I wouldn’t trade my squish for anything!
What have you learned along the way in your motherhood journey? I would love to hear!